When I was in my twenties, I became a caregiver for multiple family members who were unable to care for themselves. It wasn’t a role that I wanted. I wanted to have my own life and be able to do things at a whim. I wanted to be like other people in their 20s and 30s. Instead, I felt chained down. I felt angry and hated that my family members were sick.
One piece of advice I have for those in a similar situation: love them, don’t hate them. Use the situation as a chance to love your family members and get close to them. Look at your family and their needs. Talk to and include your loved ones in conversations, family gatherings, etc. But, look at your needs too because self-care is very important. I encourage those who find themselves in a situation similar to mine to reach out. Find a counselor, therapist, priest, or other people in your community to vent to. Know that there are resources out there to help you. If you need to scream, find somewhere to scream. Get away when you can so that you can come back and continue to love.
Although it has been difficult, I believe that helping others is my ministry. I think that some people have a calling for caregiving. If God has given you this calling, then don't push it away. God has been with me through everything. He will help you walk through the hardest things in your life. It is important to have faith, ask God for help, and give thanks.