Not too long ago, I decided to do a quick social media detox. It reminded me that I do not have many relationships that I am actively engaged in (or entangled in, depending on how you look at it) at this stage of my life. This may not sound like a good thing, but it is. I appreciated taking some time to enjoy and feel the weight of the space that’s in my life:
-There’s space to focus on projects that I want to focus on
-There’s space to serve whenever and wherever I feel like in the community
-There's space to take a step back from information sharing and gathering
-There’s space to provide support and be a resource as needed
-There’s space to be reminded that you can’t really know people…unless you take the time to get to know them…and they have to want to be known (social media is not enough)
-There’s space for me to reflect on what I really want out of friendship
-There’s space for me to remember that my immediate family is very important to me (I am thankful that I was able to find a job that allows me to live away from home but still visit at least once a week)
-There’s space for me to participate in activities and conversations that add value, energy, and substance to my life
-There’s space for me to start living the life I want to live NOW
-There’s space to not connect on social media with friends/acquaintances from the past who substitute actual interaction with profile scrolling (instead, I am open to in-person meet ups, talking on the phone, or communicating through email)
There was a time in my life when I took a step back and the space felt unbearable. I didn’t know what to do with it. Now, I value it and know that I need it. It is my secret weapon. The items listed above are not just good for me. They are good for my current relationships and future relationships. Space helps me be a better initiator, friend, sibling, daughter, colleague, mentee, trainer, leader, etc. If/when I step into a different stage of life it will help me to be the significant other, wife, and/or mother that I want to be. Space has given me what I need to step out in faith and focus on how I can make the biggest impact that I can in my lifetime. It has also helped me focus on a few quality relationships and my indispensable role as an initiator.
Questions to ponder:
1. What kind of "space" do you have in your life?
2. What are some positive things that the "space" in your life allows you or gives you the energy to do?
3. Do you think that the "space" mentioned above is selfish? Why or why not?
This blog series is focused on Priorities.
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